All the time, I get on here to blog and don't actually end up posting anything. It's not that I don't write anything, I do. I have countless drafts of blog posts. But they aren't finished. I don't know why, but whenever I speak on something serious or something that is important to me, I always have this problem. I can't seem to say what I want to say without using too many words, or not enough words, or skirting around the subject and completely missing the point. It's as if my brain is so afraid of saying the wrong thing that it goes into a panic and I over think what I am writing about or can't think of anything at all.
So, I thought that the best way to get around this was to just sit down and write a blog post all the way through. No stopping for breaks, no editing. It might be random, it might be awful, but it will be finished.
I thought I would write about my difficulties with writing. Sometimes, paralyzing fear of saying the wrong thing keeps me from saying what I want to say. Words are so powerful, and I know that they can hurt as much as they can heal. And hurting someone with your words is much, much easier to do. Sometimes, when I write, I wonder if I will accidentally offend someone with something that I've said. Unintentionally, of course. I would never want to offend anyone. But it's easy to take things out of context. Sometimes, I get tongue-tied. My mind floods with words, explanations, commentaries and criticism and in doing so I simply can't say what I want to say because there are too many ways to say it. And I know that doesn't make sense at all, but it is what happens. And then there are the times when I just can't think of the right word. At all. And so a sentence remains unfinished because I just don't know what to put next.
Yes, I know what you're thinking. This has got to be the most pointless blog post ever. But bear with me. I'm trying to get to the root of my writer's block, and nothing helps me better than thinking out loud.
Or listening to music. Really any combination of the two is helpful.
The thing is, this is not just a problem I have when writing. I often have this problem when I speak with other people. Which then prompts them to ask if I am listening, because I am so lost in thought.
Honestly, I'm not that rude. I'm just... scattered.
Is there any way around this other than just blurting out the first things that pop into your head? Writing the first word that enters your thoughts? I wonder if it is possible to train yourself to think in such a way that writing and carrying on a conversation becomes easier. But is that really something you would want to do? Is it such a bad thing to put a ridiculous amount of thought behind what you're going to say? If you speak all the time (or write all the time) and say meaningless things just because you felt like saying them, is anyone really going to listen to what you say? Wouldn't it be better to mull it over and to make sure you use exactly the right words? I think that words carry more weight when they are considered before they are flung out into the public eye.
Of course, over-thinking your words leads to another danger, something I believe I have addressed before. In our obsession with saying exactly the right thing, do we err in saying nothing at all? If we don't speak because we don't believe we are saying something absolutely perfect, isn't that just as bad as saying the wrong thing? We aren't perfect. So nothing we say is going to be perfect. But where is the line between openly blurting every thought that crosses your mind and considering what you're going to say so much that you end up silent?
It is something to think about. Something to work on.
As for now, I have spoken enough, I think. A new post, and my writer's block is gone. Perhaps I will work on those drafts later and post them. I would hate for them to sit there forever because I didn't know how to say what I wanted to say.
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